The Friend Zone.

Dating these days is so stinking complicated. But the sad thing is, is that it doesn't have to be! If we put aside our cell phones, tinder, facebook, and whatever other non-face-to-face thing we use then what would we have? Some would say nothing. Well then if that really is your answer then I feel bad for you! By the way, you're probably lacking in vitamin D if your life revolves around technology THAT much. Get outside and do something, eh? We would have better people skills, probably higher self-esteems, and more REAL friends.
I guess it's not that easy anymore, huh? So why do we complicate things? Why can't it just be 'going steady' or 'not going steady?' Or 'married' or 'not married?'
Instead we've got titles like girls are just one of the boys. Yeah right. Or some of us girls find it necessary to have one of those 'gay' friends (who is probably not gay at all...but just has really good style and won't make a move on you). Then there's that, "Oh, he's just like a brother (or sister) to me" those ones always end up getting married. Not sure why, because if he's like you're brother...well then marrying your brother is sick. Then there's make-out buddies, or 'friends with benefits'. BYU kids like to call it "NCMO" (Non-Commital Make-Outs). Obviously you wouldn't be kissing someone if you didn't have feelings for them! Maybe I'm just old-fashioned. But a kiss to me is like a, "hey, we're like...together (going steady) now...don't be kissin' no one else now, ya hear?" THEN, we have the 'complicated' status. Let's not jump into that shipwreck, the name should be enough for you. But wait, it gets worse. Then there's the friend zone... Dun, dun, duunnn....

This zoning of friends trend started a long, long time ago...
Let's take it back to Jr. High.
We'd seen movies, we've been told, we must have known that the smart kids were the ones that would end up making money. They would be the ones finishing college half way through high school, not having any student debt, and probably the ones with the biggest hearts too. And now that I'm a little older I can obviously see! Freak I screwed up! I made fun of boys who had braces and were super smart and I used them for better grades... All of them ended up in the friend zone and they also ended up super successful later in life... So why is it that they are the prime candidates for the friend zone?

What puts one in the friend zone, you ask?

They're the nice guys! The ones that don't want to seem pushy! They don't want to come on too strong...they might even feel more content by acting gay than professing their love and appreciation for you because who knows, maybe some girls don't love to hear that they are beautiful and worth something! Pansy boys... Well guess what, NICE GUYS FINISH LAST!!!

*Tip to you boys: if you want to get out of (or never enter) the friend zone don't be too shy! Be strong and let us know that you know how to handle a woman and she will probably let you handle her! ;) Also, don't be a tool. Don't 'accidentally' forget your wallet when taking a girl out. Do some activities she likes, anything but clothes/shoes/makeup shopping. That is friend zone territory! Don't assume she's one of the guys--ever. Because she's not. She's a girl and probably always will be. Cuddle with her while watching a movie one-on-one! Not just any friend will do that, and she knows that too. Don't let her get her own door, ask her out dates in person, and last but not least, BRING HER FLOWERS!!!! I can almost guarantee that she will melt in your arms!

 

So yeah those are all great words of advice...but the one thing that is puzzling me...and I am yet to understand is...

 

What happens when a girl gets 'Friend Zoned'?

 

Believe it or not, it can happen to girls. I'm saying this from personal experiences. Notice the 's' at the end of experience. Aaaaaand I have nothing to say to that. I am stumped and absolutely confused! A friend of mine kept asking me to come around, like all the time, and yet he still showed no interest. Why? I assumed he was shy. Nope, we talked about it. Turns out he threw me in the friend zone! Why, why, why did he do that!?!? What does a girl do when she gets thrown into the friend zone? If anyone has any comments please leave them here. I'm confused and find this quite silly actually!!