Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Bitter-sweet memories with the baby.

So this profile picture is one of my favorites. That's a little boy in that pic with me. He was so big for his age back then, and still is! I gave birth to him a month before that picture was taken. I don't remember what all happened, it was all so quick...it's all kind of a blur now. The only thing I have to remind me that I gave birth to a stud muffin are the tiger stripes on my belly! I know I've mentioned him quite a bit in this blog but I've never really gone into details about this kid. Here's a little something I'd like to share with all of you who are interested in what happened during those few days that he was mine.

It was a Saturday night when I was waddling down to the Santaquin park to meet up with Gary. It was awkward but he was cool about the whole thing. I told him I couldn't do it, and that I didn't want to... I knew it was right for the baby so I did it, of course. The next day I was so nervous I couldn't eat. I was suppose to be to the hospital by the late afternoon and couldn't find an appetite in me... Until I got checked into the hospital, I. Was. STARVING!! So my dad went out to get me a cheese burger from McDonalds. How sweet. In the meanwhile, I got to hang out with the baby's new parents and do my last interview on them. They are the friendliest and most loving people I have ever met! Of course, I'm sure they felt just as nervous as me, knowing that if they screwed up even a little bit I could decide to not give them the baby. They were a great support though and I'm so glad they were there!
The nurse that was helping me that night must have been just finishing her shift because she was mean.... Trust me, when you're giving birth, you don't want a mean nurse!! With pillows awkwardly placed under my back and monitors strapped to my stomach, I couldn't sleep. The next morning they started the process! They put this cool balloon inside of me to help open me up. Not even two hours later my bed was wet, I thought that the balloon popped and that I had peed all over the bed and made a complete mess, but no.

My water broke. :)

You know what that means! Contractions and anesthesiologists!!

Haha, my poor anesthesiologist scared the living day-lights out of everyone! Picture this: My backside is facing him (who I thought was to be a stranger) when he says, "Man, I use to LOVE watching you cheer! They would throw you all around! And then you would do those tricks in my pool too! Man, those were the good days!" While he's shoving this gigantic needle into my spine!
Everyone else in the room and I just went silent. Our eyes all met each other's and shared the same "WTF?!" expression. Turns out he was one of my good friends dad! Haha Nothing to worry about!

No creeps running around with needles this time!

See, I was hoping that this could be a painless procedure so I wouldn't get any attachment feelings about the delivery and want to keep the baby. Back then, I was honestly thinking that I could just push him out of me and give him away without even looking at him. Not sure what I was thinking. And that's definitely not what happened! Oh, I was so naive.

But then...I felt something. And I felt it again. The nurse re-adjusted my pillows and I could only push the "HOLY HECK I'M IN PAIN" button once every half hour. I was in so much pain so I kept pressing the dang button! It was only getting worse!! I decided right then that I would just skip the needle in the spine step next time and just do it all natural! That was too much of a hassle! So we brought the big dog (the anesthesiologist) back in, everything seemed to be okay, but wait, the tube that was feeding me my delicious drugs had come unscrewed. There goes all my precious numbing meds onto the floor... Freak.
Feeling much better a few hours later, I was allowed to start pushing. In all honesty, I didn't do any of the pushing. There was my grandma (who's never had a baby) pushing my feet and making intimidating football player faces at me... I think she was pushing for me....literally. I just slept in between intervals.
Every time the nurses would leave the room I would chug down a cup or two of lemonade. They said I couldn't have any so I had to drink it while they were away! I was so tired and thirsty!!
The baby had his head almost out while the doctor was massaging me to help prevent major tearing, he said, "That a girl!!" haha I screamed, "WHAT!?!? You said it was a BOY!!!!" Obviously a little misunderstanding! We laughed and then I casually asked for one of them blue bags. Yep. I threw up... For the first time the ENTIRE PREGNANCY!! I know this is so gross but it tasted SO GOOD!!! I looked in the bag to see what was so delicious when I saw something kind of just floating there... A pickle? Hmm. So I guess that with the sugar they pump into me for energy and all the lemonade I was consuming, it came out super good. Who would've thought?
The baby finally made his way out of me and in all honesty, it felt like a wet, cooked noodle slipping through my fingers... Only a little bigger and from between my legs. He came out smiling when the nurses slapped some sense into him! He only cried for a minute and then got back to smiling. Already we knew that he was going to be a ladies man... seeing as the room was filled with us ladies! I let the mom watch this process since she couldn't have kids either and she didn't get to see her first kid's birth. It was just to help them be able to connect better. We all agreed on a name, Cole. Cole David Poole (until the papers were signed and he was theirs). He was a bright-eyed boy with very long, dark, and straight hair. Here are just a couple pics :)

Cole was born at 9:13 pm on 4/4/11 weighing just under 8 lbs.

He's adorable, really! It was such a good experience. Look out for the next few blogs, there'll be one for the two days following that. A lot happened on those days so it'll be lengthy! Then there's a one month meeting, a six month meeting and a one year meeting. I've got lots of pics and details. And I know this is totally off the subject but I couldn't have gotten through any of this if it wasn't for Gary being there for me. I think that, that is what he was suppose to be there for...and that may have been it. So thank you Gary, even though we can't make things work now, we did then. So thank you a million times for being that great support system for me. You'll all see in the pictures later why I had to throw that in there, it's because Gary's in all of them. :] 

Thank you for reading this one! Things are definitely looking up for me so thanks for (sort of) being a part of it! Have a good Wednesday all!! And to Cole, I love you so much!!

Sunday, July 14, 2013

It's been hard enough on me..

You let me into your life on a whim and there was magic and fire in the night. In loving I was just a little boy. I made mistakes that caused you so much pain. All I know is that I'm older now...
Some people think that it's best to refrain from the conventions of old-fashioned love. Their hearts are filled with holes and emptiness. They tell themselves that they're too young to settle down. But I promise that I'm older now.
And this has been hard enough on you. I know it's been hard enough on me. Been telling myself that I can roll with the changes...
And when the water gets high above your head, darling don't you see? While this has been hard enough on you. It's been hard enough on me
I wasn't looking when we built these walls. Let me spread my dreams at your feet. Let’s not let time’s bitter flood rise, before my thoughts begin to run. I think I'm getting older now...
And this has been hard enough on you. I know it's been hard enough on me, been telling myself that I can roll with the changes. And when the water gets high above your head darling don't you see? While this has been hard enough on you...It's been hard enough on me.
Can't stand the thought of another, talking to you sweet my dear. Where would I be tonight if you hadn't held me here, in your arms?
And this has been hard enough on you. I know it's been hard enough on me, been telling myself that I can roll with the changes... And when the water gets high above your head darling don't you see?While this has been hard enough on you...
It's been hard enough on me.

-Brandon Flowers

This is a good song, I feel like it's been one that I could always relate to, no matter what was going on. I love this kind of music. It's so real, kind of like country music...but not... I find so many songs that I just wish someone could sing to me, this is definitely one of them. Brandon Flowers is one of my heroes. He's a Mormon singer from Las Vegas and is able to hold his own while bearing his testimony on TV and keeping his fans loyal. Maybe not 100% of his songs are appropriate but hey, I would say about 90% of them are! This is good music. If you think otherwise *Gary* you don't have to be in my life. Because this is part of who I am. Actually, it's almost all of who I am. This (music..all music) is what I'm so passionate about. My life doesn't revolve around boys, family, money, clothes... It revolves around music. And you know what? The Beatles are alright. They're just not my first choice! This is my first choice. In the end, this is what gets me through the hard times. With a little help from the man upstairs too, of course!... (hence the appropriate music 90% of the time!) lol
Music is my coping mechanism. If I do have a hard time, which is like ALL THE FLIPPING TIME, I can promise that I'll be listening to something loud... something inappropriate... probably screamo! Haha Just kidding. Honestly, it's usually Taylor Swift or The Killers. Both are fairly appropriate. ;)
In the end as long as I can sing anything out loud, very loud to anything, chances are... I'm going to be okay.

And I think I will. I think I'll be okay.

Thanks for taking the time to read this, have an awesome Monday everybody!

Friday, July 12, 2013

Me? Jealous?? ...NEVER.

Just to start this out, I'm going to let you all know that I am very human. And in being so, come some traits that I would love to not really have, one of those being jealousy.

Some say that jealousy is good because it shows that you (being the jealous one) really love that person. It could also mean that you don't trust them. Or it could be that you're selfish and don't want to share that special person.
I'd like to think that my situation pertains to the first one.
Gary called me when he got off work. He just worked over 12 hours, in the rain, moving some strangers wet and heavy furniture... It couldn't possibly be fun. He was very tired and wanted nothing but McDonalds.
So there's me, dying to spend time with my once sweetheart. I'll probably do anything just to be with him in hopes to re-live those better times. Pathetic, I know. Even though I know that he's had nothing but fast food all day, every day... for the past... 2 years, I reluctantly get him a #1, a large with lemonade. While driving there he showed me a picture of some silly looking girl with eyes larger than life and a ring on her left ring finger that was probably bigger than her eyes. He said he loves her. I don't know her but if he loves her, I think I should get to know her. I gasped! She is SO LUCKY! He says, "Luck is winning the lottery...she has a career!"
Yeah, I got the hint. And the slap in the face.
So I didn't do MATC in high school. And I took three years on a two-year degree. And  yeah I got a little bit of debt in doing so... Does that mean that I'm not a catch?
We go back to his apartment and turn on Dr. Who. He wouldn't let me sit close to him... I guess this is our compromise for having 'space' in our relationship. So I sit on the couch next to his (haha). He got his new instrument out and played a few songs for me. He's very talented. When he finished he asked me a few times to go home so he could go to bed... but then his phone rang. It was a cute ring, probably unlike the one that comes up when I call.
It was his best friend. His ex. No, not me.
The other one.
The pretty one.
The one he sometimes unconsciously compares me to.
She asked him to come to her rescue, not in those words, I'm sure. I didn't know the situation so I asked to come. He looked at me as if I was freaking retarded and then politely said, "No..." I was confused and surprisingly, not hurt. He kissed me goodbye which was different for us, well, it was on the cheek.
I'm proud of him! And happy for her! I'm so glad that she has such a good guy in her life that'll be there for her no matter what.
I don't know if this is how I'm suppose to be feeling.
Happily, I drove home, anxious to take off that crappy nail polish and to put on something not so gaudy. He wasn't really on my mind till I walked into my apartment and words just spilled out of my mouth... "So he's with his ex right now, comforting her while she cries because her boyfriend is less than impressive..." Right then it hit me.
He loves her.
I think he might actually be in love with her.
I've always known it, and he'll say it! I just chose to kind of...ignore it. Wouldn't anyone?
I've heard many rumours about them and he's told me enough...but I trust him! Just like I expect him to trust me, which he doesn't. But that's irrelevant.
I keep telling myself that he's just chilling with her and her family, like he always does... But in the back of my mind I (try not to) picture us in a similar situation. When our emotions get heated, naturally, we close any space between us just for comfort. Call me jealous to assume, but it's not unheard of between the two of them...

Yep. I called him. It's been two hours and he said he'd call me when he was done. No call. But he did answer! I wanted to ask him if he was asking me to leave so many times just so he could see her... But I didn't. Something worse came out. I asked if he kissed her! He laughed...
Note to self: when you ask your boyfriend/ex-boyfriend (whatever he is) if he kissed another girl, and all he does is laugh... it's usually not a good sign. So I asked if she was alright and he said yes and that they were just in the grocery store...buying ice cream...
Am I the only one thinking, "WTF?" So I asked him to get me some while he was at it. He called me crazy and said goodbye about 8 times before we actually did hang up...

So what do I do? How am I suppose to feel? Is this natural? Am I being too calm? Am I being too crazy? :-/
Someone please tell me I'm normal! It's okay to worry, right??
Is she over-stepping her boundaries? Am I? Ugh.
I'm going to blame this all on love and stupid jealousy.

Sunday, July 7, 2013

He. Called. Me. FAT!!!

Ever since about the day before the 4th of July (so like four days ago from when I'm writing this) he (Gary) started calling me fat. I don't get it. Doesn't he know what that does to a girl's...or ANYONE'S self-esteem!?!? That is a giant no-no. That's like a girl telling a guy his... nevermind. It just hurts, okay? So yeah, now I'm looking in the mirror like, "Oh, yeah I see that cellulite. If I push my skin down this way it makes..."

What?

I know this is crazy and shocking to hear but I'M NORMAL!!! And I'm sure he won't believe me when he reads this but honey, I'm only human.

He has this problem where he remembers me from when I was like 17 and had 13% body fat... Well news flash sweetheart, I aint 17 no more! That was FIVE YEARS AGO!!!
I'm a freakin' WOMAN now!!!
I've got curves! And no, they're not all rock solid anymore! They're...flattering.

Oh you're talking about my scarred and stretched stomach? Oh you're right. I'm a hippo... ??

Two summers ago when our relationship was raging like the river into the Santaquin res. I was having a very hard time. Obviously. That's right after I had a kid and my body went into shock. Who's wouldn't, right? So basically I couldn't eat. I was tiny and starving. I couldn't even fit into my size zero jeans. It was ridiculous. But Gary LOVED it!!! He would tell me all the time, "You're so tiny! I love it!" as he would give my waist a giant bear hug. Of course, I liked my size too...And don't get me wrong, I do miss him treating me like that...I just wasn't too happy about having to buy a new wardrobe and having nothing to eat without getting sick. But the second I found things to eat... Let's just say I had to buy another wardrobe! I'm just kidding. :) We went to Gold's Gym and signed two years of our lives and our wallets down the drain. We got those stupid memberships to be together.

I think we've been there five times together. Our passes expire next month.

I definitely grew into a womanly shape. And it's not even round!! I will not complain. My clothes fit. Sure I could run a little bit more, cut down on the ice-cream... But come on, that takes effort. And besides! I've always had a little bit of a pudge on my belly. I. AM. NOT. ASHAMED. HE, on the other hand has grown from a 30 being too big on his butt to a 35 that barely fits! I would never tell him that he's gaining weight. I only encourage him to go to the gym with me!

Ugh.

I've always averaged a healthy 110 to 120. Right now I'm at 117. I can run an 8 minute mile, see my MapMyRun app. It'll tell you so. My pant size is 2 and my shirts are small. I'm not really a giant like he makes me out to be! I guess I'm not perfectly toned...and I could improve my posture to make me not look so large...heaven forbid. Maybe I'm not perfectly toned but I'm comfortable.

Isn't that all that counts in the end??